How to take charge of your life by using your hidden power
Do you ever feel like you are struggling to accomplish the things you want in your life?
I feel like that all the time. Things like stress and negative thoughts are limiting me in the pursuit of my dreams.
It seems that I am not the only one that feels like this. In fact, up to 70% of our daily recurring thoughts may be negative according to some researchers .
What if I told you that there is a hidden power within you that is able to free you from these harmful thoughts and emotions. Would you be interested in knowing what it is?
Well, I am about to share my knowledge about this power with you and explain how you can use it to take charge of your life.
Simple questions you can ask to discover your power
Have you ever stopped to think about who you really are? Just take a second and think about how you would define yourself.
Most people would probably first point to themselves by referring to their name often followed by their profession, some hobbies and some things they like.
But are those things really you?
If they are, that would mean that you are the product of everything you experience in life.
When you are born you start with a clean slate. You have no self-concept yet. You are given a name and you slowly learn how the world works by the various impulses it provides you with.
Information is fired at you at a rapid speed and the only ‘device’ you seem to have to process this information with is your mind.
Does this mean that you are your mind?
The self-concept that is derived from your mind is called the ego. The ego is made up out of all the things you have experienced in life.
Your first kiss, the things you were taught at school, the people you’ve encountered, the shows that you’ve seen on television, the books you’ve read, and so on.
All these things essentially make up the ego and manifest itself in the daily thoughts you have.
This leaves us with the question:
Are all these thoughts you constantly have really you?
One simple step that can give you an amazing insight
Meditation is something which can teach us a lot about ourselves. I used to think meditation was just something for crazy woo woo people who sit on top of a mountain all day.
Later I learned that I was the crazy one for NOT meditating.
Meditation is for everyone. It is one of the most powerful things you can do to enhance your life.
When you put all your prejudice aside and try it with an open mind you will be amazed. I guarantee it!
The concept of meditation is simple. It is nothing more than focusing your attention on something you can observe.
The most basic form of meditation is just sitting up with a straight back while trying to focus your attention on your breathing. The whole purpose of meditation is to clear your mind and basically ‘not think’.
But when you get into meditating you’ll soon find out that ‘not thinking’ is almost impossible. You lack control over your thoughts. They simply happen.
Meditation puts you into a state where you are able to observe your thoughts. This can provide you with the insight that you are not your thoughts.
You can start to realize that thoughts are processes in your mind which always happen whether you like it or not. When you learn to observe them it can trigger the realization that you don’t need to identify with them.
Realizing that you are not your thoughts can be very liberating.
It means that the external influences you’ve experienced in your life don’t actually define you. You can choose to ignore thoughts that don’t benefit you and stop them from taking up all of your attention.
The shocking truth about being yourself
So if you are not your thoughts, who are you then?
Let me state that I cannot tell you the answer to this question. You can only experience the answer yourself.
I can merely give you my prospective on the subject and hope to inspire you. Your true self will have to decide if it is the truth or not.
In my view you are pure consciousness. This consciousness has the ability to observe and delegate.
This means that you can observe your thoughts but are also able to steer them in a certain direction.When you are for instance trying to solve a problem, you are able to direct your thoughts to find a solution.
The ability to observe and to delegate is at the core of who we are. This is the hidden power within us, which I call conscious living.
Conscious living is really about being your true self. The more you master this power, the more you truly are yourself. But this quest to be yourself might just be the biggest challenge of life.
Conscious living is the foundation of self-development. In self-development we try to better ourselves by consciously making choices to improve our lives.
This mission to improve ourselves is what connects us all here at Amstermind. The fact that you are reading this article proves to me that you are among the few people who is on the path of mastering conscious living.
I would argue that many people go through life without really deciding where they want to go on a conscious level. I call this ‘stimulus response mode’.
These people are driven by their ego and thoughts which are made up out of all their life’s experiences caused by external factors. When something happens in their life (stimulus) they react in an automated manner (response).
How to use the power of conscious living
When living consciously, you observe your thoughts and the emotions that may come up with them.
Becoming aware of them offers you the choice of whether you want to further pursue them or not. Instead of automatically reacting as if you are on auto-pilot.
When doing this it is essential that you accept whatever thought or feeling you experience. Resisting them always has a negative effect and will cause the thoughts or feelings to intensify.
If you accept them fully you can make the conscious choice where you want to put your attention.
To give a real life example of this: Imagine that you are in a hurry and you’re waiting in line to pay for your groceries at the supermarket.
The cashier is taking a really long time with the customers in front of you. She definitely doesn’t seem to know what she’s doing and is constantly asking her supervisor for help.
As you are waiting in line you feel that you are getting agitated and negative thoughts about the situation are racing in your head:
“That stupid girl, can’t she go faster”, “
This always happens to me when I am in hurry”,
“I hate waiting in line” and so on.
These are typical stimulus response reactions to the situation. When you are not living consciously in that moment there is a big chance that you identify with these thoughts and feel awful about the situation.
Instead, if you stop and think about it, you will realize that none of these thoughts are beneficial to you.
When you are aware that these thoughts are just processes in your head you can start to ignore them. These nagging thoughts will then become less overwhelming and eventually fade away.
Practicing this enables you to live more consciously and will make you a happier and more fulfilled human being.
Are you ready to take back control?
Having control over your own thoughts and emotions is probably the most useful skill you can master in life. Although, I doubt that it is something that can ever be fully mastered.
Even though I have been practicing conscious living for some years now, I still consider myself a mere amateur.
Conscious living is like a muscle. When you train this muscle it becomes stronger.
So the next time you find yourself thinking or reacting negatively to some external stimulus, try to think of the concepts described in this article.
Do not identify with the response or the negative thoughts or feelings you might have. But do not fight against them either.
Just let them be and focus on other things like more productive and happy thoughts. You are not a robot that can only give an automated response.
You are a conscious human being with an incredible power within you. Choose to use this power and your life will never be the same.
Julian is the co-founder of Amstermind. His mission is to raise consiousness globally by spreading life-enhancing ideas. Julian is a society critic, freedom lover, modern hippie and obsessed truth seeker. His ideas are often about deprogramming yourself and getting in touch with your inner core. Follow him on Facebook and Twitter if you are unafraid of challenging your world view.