The key mindset to live your dreams
Healthy mindsets are important tools you can use to guide yourself through life. When you have the right mindset almost everything seems possible. Recently I discovered the key mindset that changes everything and has the potential to help you live your dreams.
Self-reflection is very important if you want to advance and grow in life. It is basically the constant re-evaluation of how you think and handle things you encounter on a daily basis. I try to always self-reflect at the end of the day when I am lying in bed.
Recently I have noticed that although I preach to other people that you should not care about what other people think about you, I still let a large part of it affect my life.
I can sometimes still choose to act or behave in a way because I am worried that people will think negatively of me. I seem to somehow still struggle with this so I decided to take a deeper look into the issue.
What is preventing you from being yourself?
Caring about what other people think of you does not suit you. This is because when you let the opinions of others about you shape your life it prevents you from being the only thing that is real and true and that is yourself.
Living up to other people’s standards won’t bring you happiness. This is because if their opinions are not in line with yours you are trying to be someone you are not. You may try to trick yourself into suppressing this simple fact, but deep down you will still feel fake and unhappy.
My life changing epiphany
I recently had an epiphany about life and our human experience in general. You could view your own time on this planet as one big movie in which you are the lead actor. This mindset changes everything. I call it the ‘it is your movie’ mindset.
The fun thing about the movie that is your life, is that there are no scripts and you have the power to change the course of the movie at any time you want.
You can choose which people are starring in the movie and what the movie is about. You can even tweak little details about the movie and try to have it just the way you like it.
Your time is limited and the ‘movie’ eventually comes to an end when you die. So to make the most of it you better participate actively. Caring about what other people think and worrying about small stuff will only harm the quality of your movie and cost you precious amounts of time.
What dying people regret
Bronnie Ware, a woman who worked for years with people who were dying wrote up a list of the top 5 regrets people speak out on their deathbed.
The number one most common regret she listed was: “I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the one others expected of me.”
Most of the dying people Ware encountered had not honored even half of their dreams. She found that they went to their death realizing that this was a choice they had made. They deeply regretted having never really lived their dreams, or even part of them.
Think about it, will all the opinions and negative thoughts about you still matter when you are lying on your deathbed? Or will you hate yourself for not choosing to follow your own heart?
What it all comes down to
In the end it all comes down to whose opinions you value more, those of others or those of yourself. Because it is your movie, the answer to the question above is obvious.
You should live your life for yourself and never for other people. Nobody else is going to live your life for you. You have the responsibility to make your movie the most awesome movie you have ever experienced.
Not worrying about what other people think about you does not mean that you should disregard all viewpoints people express that differ from yours. It is very important to always listen to others with an open mind and to be able to entertain a thought without having to accept it.
The key thing here is that you don’t let negative thoughts or opinions people have about you affect you in any way. They should not matter because you value living your own life and directing your own movie as the highest possible ideal.
Now some people will probably disagree with ‘it is your movie’ mindset and call it selfish. Let me first state that the mindset should never be an excuse to hurt other people in any way.
However, being selfish is not a bad thing. Everybody is selfish. Doing things for yourself is a very good thing. You can’t count on anyone else to do things for you.
You are responsible for your own life. Being selfish has gotten a bad reputation because of people who do things for themselves that hurt other people.
Hurting other people is never in your best interest. When you hurt another human being it will always have a direct or indirect negative impact on you. Therefore hurting others cannot be called selfish but falls in the category of self-destruction. Future articles will go more into depth on these topics.
Julian is the co-founder of Amstermind. His mission is to raise consiousness globally by spreading life-enhancing ideas. Julian is a society critic, freedom lover, modern hippie and obsessed truth seeker. His ideas are often about deprogramming yourself and getting in touch with your inner core. Follow him on Facebook and Twitter if you are unafraid of challenging your world view.